On Trauma #CardTalkWithMayuri
Trauma is something we have all faced, in varying degrees maybe, at some point in our lives. I have been practicing Tarot Reading for the past 13 years and I think I could safely say that I have seen a wide range of human emotions through the different people I meet professionally. So here is my take on it, from a layman’s point of view and NOT a medical one.
What is Psychological Trauma?
Wikipedia defines it thus: Psychological Trauma is a type of damage to the mind that occurs as a result of a severely distressing event. Trauma is often the result of an overwhelming amount of stress that exceeds one’s ability to cope, or integrate the emotions involved with that experience.
How lucky we are to be born Human. We are blessed with 5 senses, we can see, we can hear, we can touch, we can taste, we can smell. We are blessed with feelings and emotions, for ourselves, and others. This ability to feel sets us apart from animals and other species. The fact that we can feel so many emotions works for us, and sometimes against us too.
Throughout our life we meet different people and go through varied experiences. Some experiences are positive, while others are not so. The loss of a loved one, or a betrayal by a trusted one. A failed relationship or a rejection. A result that disappointed or a job that you had to leave or were sacked from. The reasons are varied and so are human reactions to each. Any experience that leaves a negative impact on us, either consciously or sub-consciously, has the potential to cause Emotional Trauma.
Every human being has experienced some kind or an emotional trauma at least at some point in their lives. Some traumas are genuine, others imagined, while still others are self-inflicted while others happen purely by being in the wrong place at the wrong time. How ever it may have occurred, the fact is that they happened. As a Tarot Card Reader I have seen many facets of Emotional Trauma and the question most often asked is ‘How can I overcome it?’
Acceptance: Firstly, you need to accept that you’ve been through an experience that caused trauma and it happened, as denial only prolongs the agony. Once you accept what has happened it becomes real, and easier to deal with. Brushing issues under the carpet doesn’t make them go away, it just creates a bump you are likely to trip on in the future.
Responsibility: Own the trauma as it is yours, self-inflicted or otherwise. When you own the trauma it gives you control, and the opportunity to decide whether you want to control it or be controlled by it.
Decision making: So now that you’ve accepted it and taken the responsibility of it, what do you do? Decide what exactly should be the next step. Do you wish to wallow in it till it becomes either a habit or a part of your life or do you wish to walk out if it, wiser and stronger? Remember, the choice is in your hands, always.
Grieve: All that talk about think positively or not thinking about it at all just does not work, as the human mind is conditioned to go in the direction it should not. Instead decide to grieve over your trauma, but after giving yourself limited time frame, like say 1 week or 15 days. Not too long as then it becomes a habit.
Seek Help: Speak to someone you trust will understand what you’re going through, a friend, a sibling or someone within the family. If you feel that none of these people can help, seek professional help.
Be Wise: Enough to realize that seeking professional help is not a stigma or a taboo. If one breaks a bone in the body, an orthopedic doctor is consulted. If there is something wrong with the tooth a dentist sets it right. In the same way when there is something amiss with your emotions, and it is not just a temporary phase but is affecting your day to day life, activities, relationships and health it is best to see a professional who is qualified to deal with it.
Life is, and will always be full of ups and downs.
Learn to ride the waves, whether they go high or low. Whenever the lack of something in your life makes you feel low, look at all that you have and your mood will perk up instantly. Each new day comes bearing new gifts, accept them and enjoy them.
Disclaimer: The information provided here is for educative purposes only. This is not medical, legal or other professional advice. Please read and/or use any of this information at your own risk.